We have been down to see our birth mom a few more times and we keep getting closer to her as we do this. Back in March we went down and did a 3D/4D ultrasound with her and that was purely amazing. I may not the chance to feel this baby move and kick inside me but atleast I get the chance to see these moments where as some adoptive families do not get to have this and I am so grateful for the birth mom that we have. The baby is already so chubby and adorable. I cant believe that she is so close to popping out. at the time of the ultrasound she was at 31 weeks and we are now at 37 weeks. We were able to see the baby yawn, stick out her tongue, pout her lips, rub he face with her little hands. Its amazing to see technology at this level to be able to see an unborn baby so clearly. I am interested to see how she will turn out looking compared to what her photos looked like. We will know in a few short weeks.
We also went down this month recently to see her again and this time we did our Match meeting with our birth mom and our counselor Courtney. It was tremendously emotional but yet completely eye opening. We were able to see where she started from and how she got to adoption and we got the chance to really tell her where we cam from and we arrived at adoption. Needless to say our birth mom and I shared a tissue box the entire meeting. But this was well worth the trip down to go to a meeting like this.
There is a down side though still to this story.... the birth father and the husband have yet to sign away their rights. This baby technically could still not come home with us. even though our birth mom is ready for the adoption the husband still holds the cards since they are still married even though this is not his baby!!!! FRUSTRATION!!! I feel at times that I am the one doing the foot work in moving the adoption process along instead of our agency. Do not get me wrong they have down a wonderful job but I feel like I am in the dark as to why our agency has not pushed to have contact with the birth father and husband. I want this adoption to go through and be completed but I guess if it not meant to be then we will have to move on but I pray every day that this works out and we become parents in the middle of May:)
